Mediation: Helping two friends resolve a conflict

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Mediation

Step in as a peacemaker, defuse tension, and help two sides find common ground in Korean.

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Iru Helper Note

In Korean social contexts, direct confrontation is often avoided in favor of a mediator who helps both sides save face. Knowing how to step in calmly, acknowledge both perspectives, and guide toward resolution is a genuinely valued social skill.

두 분 다 이해해요. 한번 같이 생각해봐요.

(I understand you both. Let's think about it together.)

🤝 What You'll Learn Today

Mediation in Korean requires a particular combination of empathy, neutrality, and gentle authority. This lesson teaches you how to step in when there's conflict, acknowledge both sides without taking a position, soften tension, and guide people toward a resolution — all in polite, natural Korean.

📌 Mediation Expressions

Expression	Meaning	Notes
잠깐만요	Just a moment / Wait a moment	Stepping in to pause conflict
두 분 다 이해해요	I understand you both	Neutral acknowledgment
양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요	Both sides seem right	Validating both perspectives
한번 같이 생각해봐요	Let's think about it together	Collaborative pivot
서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요	Each side can have different perspectives	Normalizing disagreement
진정해 주세요	Please calm down	De-escalation request
차분하게 얘기해봐요	Let's talk calmly	Redirecting the tone
공통점을 찾아봐요	Let's find common ground	Solution-focused pivot
오해가 있는 것 같아요	There seems to be a misunderstanding	Reframing conflict
서로 이야기를 들어봐요	Let's each listen to the other	Procedural suggestion
타협할 수 있을 것 같아요	I think we can reach a compromise	Optimistic reframe
중간 지점을 찾아요	Let's find a middle ground	Compromise language
상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요	Try thinking from the other side's perspective	Empathy prompt
해결할 수 있어요	We can resolve this	Hopeful closing

💡 Key pattern: 잠깐만요 (step in) + 두 분 다 이해해요 / 양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요 (validate both) + 차분하게 얘기해봐요 / 공통점을 찾아봐요 (redirect) + 해결할 수 있어요 (close with hope) — this four-step mediation flow is the backbone of Korean conflict softening.

💬 Conversations in Action

Dialogue 1 — Workplace Disagreement

A와 B: [disagreeing loudly]

C: 잠깐만요. 두 분 다 이야기 들었어요. (Just a moment. I heard you both.)

A: 그 사람이 틀렸잖아요! (They're wrong!)

C: 양쪽 다 맞는 부분이 있는 것 같아요. 차분하게 다시 얘기해봐요. 오해가 있는 것 같아요. (Both sides seem to have valid points. Let's talk calmly again. I think there's a misunderstanding.)

B: 알겠어요... (Okay...)

C: 서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요. 중간 지점을 찾아봐요. (Each side can have different perspectives. Let's find a middle ground.)

Dialogue 2 — Between Friends

A: 그 사람이 왜 그런 말을 했는지 이해를 못 하겠어요. (I can't understand why they said that.)

B: [중재자] 상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요. (Try thinking from the other side's perspective.)

A: 그렇게 생각하면... (If I think of it that way...)

B: 해결할 수 있어요. 같이 공통점을 찾아봐요. (We can resolve this. Let's look for common ground together.)

🌏 Cultural Note — The Role of the Mediator (중재자) in Korea

In Korean social and work culture, direct confrontation is often seen as disruptive. A neutral third party — the 중재자 (mediator) — is frequently called on to de-escalate conflict and guide resolution. This role carries quiet authority: speaking calmly, acknowledging both sides, and bringing the conversation toward 타협 (compromise). The face-saving aspect is crucial — good Korean mediation helps both parties feel heard without making either feel defeated or embarrassed. Using 오해가 있는 것 같아요 (there seems to be a misunderstanding) reframes conflict as accidental, not deliberate, which opens space for resolution.

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Practice stepping in and mediating calmly in Korean.

A. Step in to pause a heated moment.

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잠깐만요. 두 분 다 잠시 멈춰요. (Just a moment. Both of you, please pause for a second.)

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B. Say you understand both sides.

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두 분 다 이해해요. 두 입장 모두 들었어요. (I understand you both. I heard both perspectives.)

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C. Validate both perspectives.

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양쪽 다 맞는 부분이 있는 것 같아요. (Both sides seem to have valid points.)

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D. Suggest talking calmly.

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차분하게 다시 얘기해봐요. 진정하고 시작해요. (Let's talk calmly again. Let's calm down and start fresh.)

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E. Reframe the conflict as a misunderstanding.

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오해가 있는 것 같아요. 다시 확인해봐요. (There seems to be a misunderstanding. Let's clarify again.)

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F. Prompt the other person to consider the opposing perspective.

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상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요. 어떻게 느껴질까요? (Try thinking from the other side's perspective. How might they feel?)

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G. Suggest looking for common ground.

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공통점을 찾아봐요. 분명히 있을 거예요. (Let's find common ground. I'm sure there is some.)

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H. Suggest finding a middle ground.

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중간 지점을 찾아요. 서로 조금씩 양보해요. (Let's find a middle ground. Let's each give a little.)

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I. Express optimism that it can be resolved.

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해결할 수 있어요. 같이 생각해봐요. (We can resolve this. Let's think about it together.)

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J. Do the full mediation arc — step in, validate, redirect, close.

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잠깐만요. 두 분 다 이해해요. 오해가 있는 것 같으니 차분하게 다시 얘기해봐요. 해결할 수 있어요. (Just a moment. I understand you both. It seems like there's a misunderstanding, so let's talk calmly again. We can resolve this.)

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Expression Reference

Expression	Use
잠깐만요	Step in / pause
두 분 다 이해해요	Validate both
양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요	Both sides valid
차분하게 얘기해봐요	Redirect to calm
오해가 있는 것 같아요	Reframe as misunderstanding
상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요	Empathy prompt
공통점을 찾아봐요	Find common ground
중간 지점을 찾아요	Find middle ground
타협할 수 있어요	We can compromise
해결할 수 있어요	We can resolve this

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Tip: Neutrality is the superpower

The best Korean mediation language stays scrupulously neutral. 양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요 (both sides seem right) and 서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요 (perspectives can differ) signal that you're not taking sides. This is what makes people trust the mediator.

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Want more reps?

Imagine a disagreement between two friends or colleagues that you've witnessed. In Korean, practice how you would step in — one sentence to pause, one to validate both sides, one to reframe, one to suggest a path forward. That four-sentence arc is what a skilled Korean mediator uses.

📦 Practice Hub — Mediation

Exercise 1 — Choose the Right Expression

Pick the best mediation phrase for each situation.

A. You need to pause a heated exchange. You say:

a) 해결할 수 있어요

b) 잠깐만요

c) 차분하게 얘기해봐요

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b) 잠깐만요 — step in with "just a moment."

B. You want to acknowledge both sides without taking a position. You say:

a) 두 분 다 이해해요

b) 진정해 주세요

c) 공통점을 찾아봐요

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a) 두 분 다 이해해요 — I understand you both.

C. You want to validate both perspectives equally. You say:

a) 타협할 수 있을 것 같아요

b) 양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요

c) 잠깐만요

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b) 양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요 — both sides seem right.

D. You want to redirect toward a calmer tone. You say:

a) 차분하게 얘기해봐요

b) 잠깐만요

c) 공통점을 찾아봐요

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a) 차분하게 얘기해봐요 — let's talk calmly.

E. You want to reframe the conflict as accidental. You say:

a) 해결할 수 있어요

b) 오해가 있는 것 같아요

c) 상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요

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b) 오해가 있는 것 같아요 — there seems to be a misunderstanding.

F. You ask one party to consider the other's viewpoint. You say:

a) 진정해 주세요

b) 상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요

c) 공통점을 찾아봐요

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b) 상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요 — try thinking from the other side's perspective.

G. You suggest a collaborative search for common ground. You say:

a) 공통점을 찾아봐요

b) 해결할 수 있어요

c) 잠깐만요

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a) 공통점을 찾아봐요 — let's find common ground.

H. You want to suggest a compromise middle ground. You say:

a) 서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요

b) 중간 지점을 찾아요

c) 두 분 다 이해해요

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b) 중간 지점을 찾아요 — let's find a middle ground.

I. You express optimism that the situation can be resolved. You say:

a) 오해가 있는 것 같아요

b) 해결할 수 있어요

c) 잠깐만요

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b) 해결할 수 있어요 — we can resolve this.

J. You normalize the disagreement by noting different perspectives. You say:

a) 타협할 수 있을 것 같아요

b) 차분하게 얘기해봐요

c) 서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요

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c) 서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요 — each side can have different perspectives.

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Quick Reference

Expression	Meaning
잠깐만요	Step in / pause
두 분 다 이해해요	I understand both
양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요	Both seem valid
차분하게 얘기해봐요	Let's talk calmly
오해가 있는 것 같아요	Seems like misunderstanding
상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요	Consider other's view
공통점을 찾아봐요	Find common ground
중간 지점을 찾아요	Find middle ground
해결할 수 있어요	We can resolve this
서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요	Perspectives can differ

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Pitfall: Don't say who's right

The moment a mediator says 이쪽이 맞아요 (this side is right), they lose neutrality and make things worse. Stick to 양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요 and 오해가 있는 것 같아요 — never declare a winner.

Exercise 2 — Korean → English Translation

Translate each mediation phrase naturally.

A. 잠깐만요. 두 분 다 이해해요.

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Just a moment. I understand you both.

B. 양쪽 다 맞는 부분이 있는 것 같아요.

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Both sides seem to have valid points.

C. 오해가 있는 것 같아요. 다시 확인해봐요.

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There seems to be a misunderstanding. Let's clarify again.

D. 차분하게 다시 얘기해봐요.

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Let's talk calmly again.

E. 상대방 입장에서 한번 생각해봐요.

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Try thinking from the other side's perspective once.

F. 서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요. 괜찮아요.

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Each side can have different perspectives. That's okay.

G. 공통점을 찾으면 분명 해결될 거예요.

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If we find common ground, it will definitely be resolved.

H. 중간 지점을 찾아요. 서로 조금씩 양보해요.

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Let's find a middle ground. Let's each give a little.

I. 타협할 수 있을 것 같아요.

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I think we can reach a compromise.

J. 해결할 수 있어요. 같이 생각해봐요.

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We can resolve this. Let's think about it together.

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Vocabulary Cheat Sheet

Korean	English
중재자	mediator
타협	compromise
공통점	common ground
입장	position / perspective
오해	misunderstanding
양보하다	to give way / to concede
중간 지점	middle ground
차분하게	calmly

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Grammar Tip: ~것 같아요 for Diplomacy

오해가 있는 것 같아요 (there seems to be a misunderstanding) is softer than 오해가 있어요 (there is a misunderstanding). The ~것 같아요 form hedges — making it a suggestion, not an accusation. Essential for neutral mediation language.

Exercise 3 — Complete the Sentence

Fill in the blank with the correct mediation expression.

A. . 두 분 다 이야기 들었어요. (Just a moment.)

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잠깐만요.

B. 양쪽 다 것 같아요. (Both sides seem right.)

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양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요.

C. 얘기해봐요. 진정하고 다시요. (Let's talk calmly.)

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차분하게 얘기해봐요.

D. 오해가 것 같아요. (There seems to be a misunderstanding.)

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오해가 있는 것 같아요.

E. 입장에서 생각해봐요. (Try thinking from the other side's perspective.)

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상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요.

F. 찾아봐요. 분명히 있을 거예요. (Let's find common ground.)

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공통점을 찾아봐요.

G. 지점을 찾아요. 서로 조금씩 양보해요. (Let's find a middle ground.)

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중간 지점을 찾아요.

H. 서로 다를 수 있어요. (Perspectives can differ.)

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서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요.

I. 타협할 수 것 같아요. (I think we can compromise.)

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타협할 수 있을 것 같아요.

J. 수 있어요. 같이 생각해봐요. (We can resolve this.)

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해결할 수 있어요.

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Sentence Starters

Starter	Use for
잠깐만요	Step in
두 분 다 이해해요	Acknowledge both
양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요	Validate both
오해가 있는 것 같아요	Reframe conflict
차분하게 얘기해봐요	Calm redirect
상대방 입장에서 생각해봐요	Empathy prompt
공통점을 찾아봐요	Common ground
해결할 수 있어요	Close with hope

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Production Tip

The 4-step Korean mediation arc: (1) 잠깐만요, (2) 두 분 다 이해해요, (3) 오해가 있는 것 같아요 / 차분하게 얘기해봐요, (4) 해결할 수 있어요. Memorize these four beats and you can mediate almost any situation.

Exercise 4 — Dialogue Completion

Complete the mediation dialogue.

A. [A와 B가 목소리를 높이고 있어요.] → You: (Step in to pause the conflict.)

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잠깐만요. 두 분 다 잠시 멈춰요.

B. A: 제 말이 맞아요! → You: (Validate both sides without taking a position.)

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양쪽 다 맞는 부분이 있는 것 같아요.

C. B: 저도 틀리지 않았어요. → You: (Say perspectives can differ and that's okay.)

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서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요. 그건 괜찮아요.

D. A: 왜 이렇게 됐는지 모르겠어요. → You: (Reframe the conflict as a misunderstanding.)

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오해가 있는 것 같아요. 다시 확인해봐요.

E. [둘 다 여전히 긴장해 있어요.] → You: (Suggest talking calmly.)

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차분하게 다시 얘기해봐요. 진정하고 시작해요.

F. B: 그쪽 입장은 이해가 안 돼요. → You: (Ask them to try considering the other side.)

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상대방 입장에서 한번 생각해봐요.

G. A: 그렇게 보면 이해가 될 수 있어요. → You: (Suggest looking for common ground.)

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그럼 공통점을 찾아봐요. 분명히 있을 거예요.

H. B: 우리가 원하는 게 비슷할 수도 있겠네요. → You: (Suggest finding a middle ground.)

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맞아요. 중간 지점을 찾으면 될 것 같아요.

I. A: 타협할 수 있을까요? → You: (Express optimism that they can.)

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타협할 수 있을 것 같아요. 같이 해봐요.

J. A와 B: 감사해요. → You: (Close with the message that this can be resolved together.)

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해결할 수 있어요. 같이 생각하면 분명 방법이 있어요.

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Useful Phrases

Phrase	Meaning
목소리를 높이다	to raise one's voice
진정하다	to calm down
여전히	still
분명히	clearly / certainly
방법이 있어요	there's a way
타협	compromise
입장 차이	difference in position

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Conversation Tip

A mediator who says 제가 맞는지 봐요 (let me see who's right) immediately loses neutrality. Stay on process language — 차분하게 얘기해봐요, 공통점을 찾아봐요 — never the outcome. The process language keeps the atmosphere cooperative.

Exercise 5 — Free Speaking Practice

Act as mediator in each scenario.

A. Two friends are arguing about plans. Step in and pause the conflict.

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잠깐만요. 두 분 다 이야기 들었어요. 차분하게 얘기해봐요.

B. Both sides are claiming to be right. Validate them equally.

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양쪽 다 맞는 부분이 있는 것 같아요. 서로 입장이 다를 수 있어요.

C. The conflict seems to stem from a misunderstanding. Reframe it.

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오해가 있는 것 같아요. 처음부터 다시 확인해봐요.

D. One side refuses to consider the other's view. Prompt them.

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상대방 입장에서 한번 생각해봐요. 어떻게 느꼈을까요?

E. The conversation has calmed. Guide them toward common ground.

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이제 공통점을 찾아봐요. 같이 생각하면 분명 있을 거예요.

F. Suggest that a compromise is possible.

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타협할 수 있을 것 같아요. 중간 지점을 찾으면 돼요.

G. Close the mediation with an optimistic statement.

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해결할 수 있어요. 이렇게 대화하면 분명 방법이 생겨요.

H. Mediate between two colleagues with different working styles.

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두 분 다 이해해요. 서로 방식이 다를 수 있어요. 중간 방법을 찾아봐요.

I. Acknowledge that the situation has been hard for both sides.

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두 분 다 힘들었을 것 같아요. 그래도 해결할 수 있어요.

J. Do the full mediation arc in under 5 sentences.

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잠깐만요. 두 분 다 이해해요. 오해가 있는 것 같으니까 차분하게 다시 얘기해봐요. 공통점을 찾으면 분명 해결돼요.

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Sentence Starters

Starter	Use
잠깐만요	Step in
두 분 다 이해해요	Neutral acknowledgment
양쪽 다 맞는 것 같아요	Validate both
오해가 있는 것 같아요	Reframe conflict
차분하게 얘기해봐요	Calm redirect
공통점을 찾아봐요	Common ground
해결할 수 있어요	Hopeful close

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Speaking Challenge

Imagine a real conflict you've witnessed or experienced. Mediate it in Korean using the full 4-step arc. Stay strictly neutral. Under 5 sentences. Practice until it flows without hesitation.

갈등을 부드럽게 해결하는 사람이 될 수 있어요! ✨