Managing Conversation Pauses without Feeling Awkward

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Managing Conversation Pauses without Feeling Awkward

Turn silence from uncomfortable to natural — using the right Korean tools.

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Iru Helper Note

In Korean conversation, pauses don't have to feel awkward. Knowing a few short expressions lets you fill the space naturally — without rushing or going blank.

잠깐만요, 뭐였지... 아, 맞다!

(Just a moment, what was it... Oh, right!)

⏸️ What You'll Learn Today

Every conversation has pauses — moments when you're thinking, remembering, or transitioning. In English you might say "um," "let me think," or "where was I?" Korean has its own set of natural pause-fillers and thinking sounds that let you hold the floor without going silent. Using these makes you sound like a real person having a real conversation, not someone reciting memorized lines.

📌 Pause Expressions and What They Do

Expression	Use	Meaning
음... / 으음...	Thinking sound	Hmm... (buying time)
잠깐만요	Pause politely	Just a moment / Hold on
뭐였지...	Trying to remember	What was it...
어디까지 했더라...	Re-finding your place	Where were we...
그러니까 / 그게	Transition while thinking	So... / Well, the thing is...
어떻게 말하면 좋을까...	Searching for words	How should I put it...
맞다, 맞다 / 아, 맞다!	Remembering something	Oh right! / That's it!

💡 Key pattern: Korean thinking sounds (음..., 그러니까...) serve the same role as English "um" and "well" — they signal you're still speaking, just processing. Using them is natural and expected in conversation.

Recovering after a pause:

Situation	Expression
You forgot the word	뭐였지... 아, (word)!
You lost your train of thought	어디까지 했더라... 맞다,
You need to think	잠깐만요, 생각해볼게요
You're searching for the right words	어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 그러니까...

💬 Conversations in Action

Conversation 1 — Remembering mid-sentence

A: 그래서 어제 뭐 했어요? (So what did you do yesterday?)

B: 어제요... 음... 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! 친구 만났어요. (Yesterday... hmm... what was it... oh right! I met a friend.)

Conversation 2 — Searching for the right word

A: 한국어로 어떻게 말해요? (How do you say it in Korean?)

B: 어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 그러니까... '익숙하다'라는 말이 제일 가까운 것 같아요. (How should I put it... so... I think '익숙하다' is the closest word.)

🌏 Cultural Note — 침묵의 의미 (What Silence Means)

In Korean conversation, a short pause is not always awkward — it can signal that you're being thoughtful rather than careless. However, a very long silence can feel uncomfortable in casual conversation. Korean speakers often use 그러니까 or 음 to maintain connection while thinking. These fillers signal "I'm still here and I'm about to say something useful" — which is far more comfortable for everyone than an empty silence. Learning these tools is one of the clearest signs that you've moved beyond scripted Korean into real conversation.

<summary>Try This Speaking Exercise

Use a natural pause expression to respond to each situation.

A. Someone asks what you did last weekend, but you need a moment to think.

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음... 잠깐만요... 지난 주말에요? 아, 맞다, 카페 갔어요! (Hmm... just a moment... last weekend? Oh right, I went to a café!)

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B. You're speaking and suddenly lose your train of thought.

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어디까지 했더라... 아, 맞다. 그래서 제 말은... (Where was I... oh right. So what I was saying is...)

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C. You're trying to find the right Korean word for something.

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어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 그러니까... '낯선 느낌'이라는 말인 것 같아요. (How should I put it... so... I think it's something like 'a foreign feeling'.)

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D. Someone asks you a question and you need just a second.

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잠깐만요, 생각해볼게요. (Just a moment, let me think.)

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E. You suddenly remember something mid-conversation.

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아, 맞다! 그 얘기 하려고 했는데, 깜빡했어요. (Oh right! I was going to mention that — I forgot.)

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F. You're trying to explain something complex and need to organize your thoughts.

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그게... 음... 어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 쉽게 말하면 이런 거예요. (Well... hmm... how should I put it... to put it simply, it's like this.)

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G. Someone asks you for a recommendation and you're thinking.

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음... 제가 좋아하는 곳이 있는데, 뭐였지... 아, 맞다, 홍대에 있는 카페예요! (Hmm... there's a place I like, what was it... oh right, it's a café in Hongdae!)

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H. You forgot someone's name for a moment.

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뭐였지... 이름이... 아, 맞다! 지수 씨예요. (What was it... the name... oh right! It's Jisu.)

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I. You need a moment after a long answer to signal you're wrapping up.

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그러니까... 결국 이런 거예요. (So... in the end, that's what it is.)

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J. You want to hold the floor while finding the next thing to say.

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그게... 음... 사실은 이런 상황이었어요. (Well... hmm... the situation was actually like this.)

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Pause Expressions Reference

Expression	When to Use
음... / 으음...	Thinking out loud
잠깐만요	Need a moment
뭐였지...	Trying to remember
아, 맞다!	Suddenly remembered
어디까지 했더라	Lost place in thought
어떻게 말하면	Searching for words
그러니까...	Transitioning / organizing

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Natural Flow Tip

The most natural pause combo is: 음... (thinking) → 그러니까... (organizing) → say the thing. You can also use 잠깐만요 before 뭐였지... to signal you need a second. These chains sound exactly like a native speaker collecting their thoughts.

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Want more reps?

The next time you speak Korean, don't panic when you pause — use 음... or 그러니까 instead. Even one of these expressions makes a gap feel intentional rather than uncertain.

📦 Practice Hub — Managing Conversation Pauses

Exercise 1 — Choose the Right Pause Expression

Pick the most natural expression for each situation.

A. You need a second to think before answering.

a) 전혀 모르겠어요

b) 잠깐만요, 생각해볼게요

c) 맞아요

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b) 잠깐만요, 생각해볼게요 — "Just a moment, let me think." Natural and polite pause.

B. You suddenly remember what you were going to say.

a) 뭐였지...

b) 아, 맞다!

c) 어디까지 했더라

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b) 아, 맞다! — "Oh right!" The expression for sudden memory return.

C. You're mid-sentence and need to search for the right word.

a) 음...

b) 잠깐만요

c) 어떻게 말하면 좋을까...

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c) 어떻게 말하면 좋을까... — "How should I put it..." Used specifically when searching for words.

D. You lost your train of thought and are trying to find it again.

a) 그러니까

b) 아, 맞다

c) 어디까지 했더라...

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c) 어디까지 했더라... — "Where was I..." The expression for losing your place.

E. You're about to organize your thoughts and continue speaking.

a) 그러니까...

b) 뭐였지

c) 잠깐만요

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a) 그러니까... — "So..." / "Well..." — the transition filler for organizing thoughts.

F. You're trying to remember something but can't quite get there yet.

a) 아, 맞다!

b) 뭐였지...

c) 잠깐만요

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b) 뭐였지... — "What was it..." — used while actively trying to remember.

G. You need just a moment — a short thinking sound.

a) 맞아요

b) 음...

c) 어디까지 했더라

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b) 음... — The Korean thinking sound, equivalent to English "um" or "hmm."

H. You want to signal you're still thinking while holding the floor.

a) 전혀 모르겠어요

b) 그게... 음...

c) 확실해요

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b) 그게... 음... — "Well... hmm..." — Holds the floor while thinking continues.

I. You're wrapping up your answer and want to signal the conclusion.

a) 그러니까... 결국 이런 거예요

b) 뭐였지...

c) 잠깐만요

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a) 그러니까... 결국 이런 거예요 — "So... in the end, that's what it is." Closes a thought naturally.

J. You realized you forgot to mention something important.

a) 어디까지 했더라

b) 그러니까

c) 아, 맞다! 말하려고 했는데

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c) 아, 맞다! 말하려고 했는데 — "Oh right! I was going to mention that." Perfect for adding forgotten info.

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Pause Expressions by Function

Function	Expression
Thinking sound	음... / 그게...
Polite pause	잠깐만요
Searching for word	어떻게 말하면
Trying to remember	뭐였지...
Lost the thread	어디까지 했더라
Sudden memory	아, 맞다!
Organizing thoughts	그러니까

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Chaining Tip

You can chain these naturally: 음... 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! This three-step sequence — think → search → remember — sounds completely natural and is exactly what Koreans say when recovering from a pause.

Exercise 2 — Korean → English Translation

Translate each pause expression or sentence naturally.

A. 잠깐만요, 생각해볼게요.

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Just a moment, let me think.

B. 뭐였지... 아, 맞다!

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What was it... oh right!

C. 어디까지 했더라... 아, 그렇지.

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Where was I... oh right.

D. 어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 그러니까, 이런 거예요.

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How should I put it... so, it's like this.

E. 그게... 음... 사실은 이런 상황이었어요.

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Well... hmm... the situation was actually like this.

F. 아, 맞다! 그 얘기 하려고 했는데 깜빡했어요.

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Oh right! I was going to mention that — I forgot.

G. 그러니까... 결국 이런 거예요.

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So... in the end, that's what it is.

H. 음... 잠깐만요, 제대로 말하고 싶어서요.

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Hmm... just a moment, I want to say this properly.

I. 뭐라고 하면 좋지... 쉽게 말하면 이래요.

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How should I put it... to put it simply, it's like this.

J. 어, 그게 맞는 말인데, 잠깐만요...

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Oh, that's the right word, but hold on...

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Vocabulary Cheat Sheet

Korean	English
깜빡하다	To forget / blank out
제대로	Properly / correctly
결국	In the end / ultimately
그렇지	That's right / oh right
쉽게 말하면	To put it simply

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Grammar Tip

뭐였지 comes from 뭐 (what) + 이다 (to be) + -었 (past) + -지 (softening/wondering ending). The -지 ending gives it the "hmm, what was it?" wondering quality. You'll also see 어땠지... (how was it again?), 누구였지... (who was it again?), 어디였지... (where was it again?).

Exercise 3 — Complete the Sentence

Fill in the blank with the right pause expression.

A. , 잠깐 생각해볼게요. (I need a moment)

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잠깐만요 — 잠깐만요, 잠깐 생각해볼게요.

B. ... 아, 맞다! 홍대에 있는 카페였어요. (trying to remember)

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뭐였지 — 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! 홍대에 있는 카페였어요.

C. 어디까지 했더라... , 그래서 제 말은... (recovering the thread)

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아, 맞다 / 그렇지 — 어디까지 했더라... 아, 맞다, 그래서 제 말은...

D. ... 그러니까, 이렇게 하면 돼요. (thinking sound)

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음 — 음... 그러니까, 이렇게 하면 돼요.

E. 말하면 좋을까... (searching for the right expression)

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어떻게 — 어떻게 말하면 좋을까...

F. 그게... , 사실은 복잡해요. (organizing thoughts)

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그러니까 — 그게... 그러니까, 사실은 복잡해요.

G. , 그 말 하려고 했는데 깜빡했어요. (sudden memory)

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아, 맞다 — 아, 맞다! 그 말 하려고 했는데 깜빡했어요.

H. ... 아, 지수 씨였어요! (forgot the name)

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뭐였지 — 뭐였지... 아, 지수 씨였어요!

I. 했더라... 아, 이 부분이었어요. (lost the thread)

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어디까지 — 어디까지 했더라... 아, 이 부분이었어요.

J. 그러니까... 이런 거예요. (in the end / conclusion)

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결국 — 그러니까... 결국 이런 거예요.

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Sentence Starters

Starter	Function
음... / 그게...	Hold the floor
잠깐만요	Polite time request
뭐였지...	Searching for a word/name
아, 맞다!	Sudden recall
어디까지 했더라	Lost thread recovery
어떻게 말하면	Word-searching opener
그러니까...	Transition/conclusion

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Production Tip

Practice saying 음... 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! out loud until it feels natural. These three expressions in sequence are your emergency kit for any time you blank out in a Korean conversation. The goal is to reach for them automatically rather than going silent.

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Exercise 4 — Dialogue Completion

Complete B's pause and recovery using natural expressions.

A. A: 지난 주말에 뭐 했어요? B: (needs a moment, then remembers going to a market)

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음... 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! 시장 갔어요. 오랜만에 나갔는데 좋았어요.

(Hmm... what was it... oh right! I went to the market. It was nice — I hadn't been out in a while.)

B. A: 한국어로 'comfortable'은 뭐예요? B: (searching for the word)

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어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 그러니까... '편하다'라는 말이 가장 가까운 것 같아요.

(How should I put it... so... I think '편하다' is the closest.)

C. A: 아까 무슨 말 하려고 했어요? B: (lost the thread, then recovers)

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어디까지 했더라... 아, 맞다! 내일 약속 얘기 하려고 했어요.

(Where was I... oh right! I was going to talk about tomorrow's plans.)

D. A: 그 식당 이름이 뭐예요? B: (trying hard to remember)

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뭐였지... 이름이... 잠깐만요... 아, 맞다! '봄날'이라는 식당이에요.

(What was it... the name... just a moment... oh right! It's a restaurant called 'Bom-nal'.)

E. A: 어떻게 됐어요? B: (organizing a complex answer)

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그게... 음... 어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 그러니까 결국 잘 됐어요.

(Well... hmm... how should I put it... so in the end it worked out.)

F. A: 한국에서 어디 가보고 싶어요? B: (thinking, then answers)

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음... 잠깐만요... 여러 곳이 있는데... 아, 맞다! 제주도에 꼭 가고 싶어요.

(Hmm... just a moment... there are several places... oh right! I really want to go to Jeju Island.)

G. A: 설명해줄 수 있어요? B: (needs time to formulate)

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그러니까... 음... 어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 이렇게 생각하면 돼요.

(So... hmm... how should I put it... you can think of it like this.)

H. A: 오늘 일정이 어떻게 돼요? B: (momentarily forgot, recovers)

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잠깐만요, 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! 오전엔 회의 있고, 오후엔 카페에서 공부해요.

(Just a moment, what was it... oh right! In the morning there's a meeting, and in the afternoon I'm studying at a café.)

I. A: 좋아하는 책 있어요? B: (thinking, then remembers a title)

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음... 좋아하는 책이 있는데... 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! '채식주의자'요. 한강 작가 책이에요.

(Hmm... there's a book I like... what was it... oh right! 'The Vegetarian.' It's by Han Kang.)

J. A: 아까 하던 얘기 계속 해봐요. B: (lost place but recovers)

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어디까지 했더라... 아, 그렇지. 그러니까 제가 말하고 싶었던 건 이거예요.

(Where was I... oh right. So what I wanted to say was this.)

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Useful Phrases

Phrase	Meaning
여러 곳이 있는데	There are several places, but
오랜만에 나갔는데	I hadn't gone out in a while
가장 가까운 것 같아요	It seems like the closest
제가 말하고 싶었던 건	What I wanted to say was
꼭 가고 싶어요	I really want to go

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Conversation Tip

When you're in a real Korean conversation and you blank out, try this: take a breath, say 음... 잠깐만요, and then give yourself the moment you need. Native speakers do this all the time and it never sounds strange. What sounds strange is panicking and going completely silent.

Exercise 5 — Free Speaking Practice

Use the pause expressions naturally in each scenario.

A. Tell someone about your last trip, forgetting a detail and then remembering it.

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지난번에 여행 갔는데... 어디였지... 아, 맞다! 부산이요. 바다가 정말 좋았어요.

(I went on a trip last time... where was it... oh right! Busan. The sea was really nice.)

B. Try to explain a word or concept in Korean, using 어떻게 말하면.

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어떻게 말하면 좋을까... 그러니까, '여유롭다'는 게 여유 있고 편안하다는 뜻이에요.

(How should I put it... so, '여유롭다' means having room and being at ease.)

C. Tell someone your weekend plans, taking a second to think first.

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이번 주말에요? 음... 잠깐만요... 아, 맞다! 친구랑 전시회 보러 가요.

(This weekend? Hmm... just a moment... oh right! I'm going to see an exhibition with a friend.)

D. Start answering a question, lose your thread, and recover.

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그러니까, 제가 말하려는 건... 어디까지 했더라... 아, 맞다. 결국 이런 거예요.

(So, what I'm trying to say is... where was I... oh right. In the end, it's like this.)

E. Try to remember someone's name with the full pause sequence.

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그 사람 이름이... 뭐였지... 잠깐만요... 아, 맞다! 민준 씨예요.

(That person's name... what was it... just a moment... oh right! It's Minjun.)

F. Answer a recommendation request after a brief thinking pause.

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음... 좋은 카페요? 잠깐만요... 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! 연남동에 제가 자주 가는 데가 있어요.

(Hmm... a good café? Just a moment... what was it... oh right! There's a place I go to often in Yeonnam-dong.)

G. Explain something complex, using 그러니까 to organize your thoughts.

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그게... 음... 어떻게 설명하면 좋을까... 그러니까, 한국어는 어순이 달라서 처음엔 어렵게 느껴질 수 있어요.

(Well... hmm... how should I explain it... so, Korean has a different word order so it can feel hard at first.)

H. Add something you forgot to mention using 아, 맞다.

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아, 맞다! 말하려고 했는데 깜빡했는데, 내일 일찍 출발해야 해요.

(Oh right! I was going to mention this but forgot — I have to leave early tomorrow.)

I. Practice the full recovery sequence: 음 → 뭐였지 → 아, 맞다!

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음... 그게 뭐였지... 아, 맞다! 그 카페 이름이 '봄봄'이에요.

(Hmm... what was it... oh right! The café is called 'Bom Bom'.)

J. Describe something you did recently, using at least two pause expressions naturally.

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어제요? 음... 뭐 했더라... 아, 맞다! 친구 만나서 밥 먹고, 그러니까... 그 다음엔 영화 봤어요.

(Yesterday? Hmm... what did I do... oh right! I met a friend and we ate, and then... so... after that we watched a movie.)

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Sentence Starters

Starter	Use
음... 잠깐만요...	Opening the pause
뭐였지... 아, 맞다!	Memory search + recall
어디까지 했더라	Thread recovery
어떻게 말하면	Word-searching
그러니까... 결국	Organizing + concluding

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Speaking Challenge

Tell a 2-minute story about anything in Korean. Every time you pause, use one of today's expressions instead of going silent. Track how many times you use them — aim for at least 3 natural pause expressions in your story.

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