Maintaining Eye Contact and Body Language in Korea

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Eye Contact and Body Language

How to talk about nonverbal communication in Korean — what body language means and how to describe it naturally.

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Iru Helper Note

Body language and nonverbal cues are discussed differently in Korean culture than in Western cultures. Knowing how to describe gestures, expressions, and eye contact in Korean — and understanding the cultural norms around them — is essential for natural, connected conversation.

눈을 마주치면 자신감 있어 보여요. 그런데 너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례가 될 수 있어요.

(Making eye contact looks confident. But staring too long can be rude.)

👁️ What You'll Learn Today

In this lesson, you'll learn how to talk about body language and nonverbal communication in Korean — describing eye contact, gestures, posture, facial expressions, and the cultural norms around each. This vocabulary is useful in conversations about social skills, cultural differences, and reading situations in Korean social settings.

📌 Body Language — Key Expressions

Expression	Meaning	Notes
눈을 마주치다	To make eye contact	눈 = eye, 마주치다 = to meet
시선	Gaze, line of sight	시선을 피하다 = to avoid eye contact
고개를 끄덕이다	To nod	Agreement or listening signal
고개를 젓다	To shake one's head	Disagreement or refusal
팔짱을 끼다	To cross one's arms	Can signal defensiveness
자세	Posture	바른 자세 = good posture
표정	Facial expression	무표정 = expressionless
미소를 짓다	To smile	짓다 = to make/form
손짓을 하다	To gesture with hands	Hand gesture
자신감 있어 보여요	Looks/seems confident	Reading someone's vibe
긴장한 것 같아요	Seems nervous	긴장 = tension, nervousness
실례가 될 수 있어요	Can be rude/impolite	Social norm warning
공손하게	Politely, respectfully	공손하다 = to be respectful
눈치가 빠르다	Quick to read the room	눈치 = social awareness

💡 Key pattern: ~(으)면 실례가 될 수 있어요 — "if you do ~, it can be rude." This pattern is essential for discussing Korean social norms around body language without sounding prescriptive.

💬 Conversations in Action

Dialogue 1 — Eye contact in Korea

A: 한국에서 눈을 마주치는 게 어때요? (How is eye contact in Korea?)

B: 적당히 마주치면 자신감 있어 보여요. 근데 너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례가 될 수 있어요. (Making moderate eye contact looks confident. But staring too long can be rude.)

A: 아, 그렇군요. 어른들한테는 어때요? (Oh I see. What about with older people?)

B: 어른들 눈을 너무 오래 쳐다보는 건 실례예요. 시선을 살짝 내리는 게 더 공손해 보여요. (Staring too long at elders is rude. Looking slightly down seems more respectful.)

Dialogue 2 — Reading someone's body language

A: 저 사람 왜 팔짱을 끼고 있어요? (Why is that person crossing their arms?)

B: 글쎄요. 긴장한 것 같기도 하고, 그냥 습관일 수도 있어요. (Hmm. They might be nervous, or it could just be a habit.)

A: 표정도 좀 딱딱해 보이네요. (Their expression looks a bit stiff too.)

B: 맞아요. 눈치가 빠른 분이시네요. (Right. You're quick to read people.)

🌏 Cultural Note — 눈치 and Nonverbal Communication

눈치 (nunchi) is one of the most uniquely Korean social concepts — the ability to read a room, pick up on unspoken signals, and respond appropriately without being told. Having 눈치가 있다 (good nunchi) is considered a highly positive social trait. It means you can sense when someone is uncomfortable, when a topic should be changed, or when to be quiet — all from subtle nonverbal cues. In Korean social contexts, much is communicated without words: a slight bow, a lowered gaze toward an elder, a soft smile rather than a direct refusal. Developing your 눈치 — and knowing how to discuss it — is one of the most valuable intermediate Korean social skills.

<summary>Try This Speaking Exercise

Describe body language and discuss Korean nonverbal communication norms.

A. Say "Making eye contact looks confident."

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눈을 마주치면 자신감 있어 보여요.

(Making eye contact looks confident.)

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B. Say "Staring too long can be rude."

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너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례가 될 수 있어요.

(Staring too long can be rude.)

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C. Say "That person seems nervous."

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저 사람 긴장한 것 같아요.

(That person seems nervous.)

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D. Say "She/he is nodding."

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고개를 끄덕이고 있어요.

(She/he is nodding.)

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E. Say "Looking slightly down seems more respectful."

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시선을 살짝 내리는 게 더 공손해 보여요.

(Looking slightly down seems more respectful.)

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F. Say "Their facial expression looks a bit stiff."

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표정이 좀 딱딱해 보여요.

(Their facial expression looks a bit stiff.)

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G. Say "She/he is crossing their arms."

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팔짱을 끼고 있어요.

(She/he is crossing their arms.)

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H. Say "You're quick to read people / the room."

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눈치가 빠르시네요.

(You're quick to read people/the room.)

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I. Ask someone why they think that person is avoiding eye contact.

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저 사람이 왜 시선을 피하는 것 같아요?

(Why do you think that person is avoiding eye contact?)

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J. Say "Good posture looks more confident."

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바른 자세가 더 자신감 있어 보여요.

(Good posture looks more confident.)

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Expression Reference

Expression	Nuance/Key
눈을 마주치다	Make eye contact
시선을 피하다	Avoid eye contact
고개를 끄덕이다	To nod
팔짱을 끼다	Cross arms
자세	Posture
표정	Facial expression
긴장한 것 같아요	Seems nervous
실례가 될 수 있어요	Can be rude
눈치가 빠르다	Quick to read room

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Speaking Tip

~것 같아요 (seems like / I think) is the natural way to describe someone else's body language without sounding judgmental: 긴장한 것 같아요 (seems nervous), 자신감 있는 것 같아요 (seems confident). This softened observation style is very natural in Korean.

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Want more reps?

Watch a Korean drama scene with the sound off. Describe five things you observe about the characters' body language using today's expressions — 표정, 시선, 자세, 고개, 팔짱. Say each observation as a full Korean sentence.

📦 Practice Hub — Eye Contact and Body Language

Exercise 1 — Choose the Right Expression

Pick the best word or phrase for each situation.

A. You want to say "to make eye contact." You say: 눈을 ___.

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마주치다 → 눈을 마주치다 (to make eye contact)

B. You want to say "to nod." You say: 고개를 ___.

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끄덕이다 → 고개를 끄덕이다 (to nod)

C. You want to say "to cross one's arms." You say: 팔짱을 ___.

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끼다 → 팔짱을 끼다 (to cross one's arms)

D. You want to say "seems nervous." You say: ___ 한 것 같아요.

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긴장 → 긴장한 것 같아요. (seems nervous)

E. You want to say "can be rude." You say: 실례가 ___ 수 있어요.

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될 → 실례가 될 수 있어요. (can be rude)

F. You want to describe someone's facial expression. You say: ___ 이 딱딱해 보여요.

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표정 → 표정이 딱딱해 보여요. (Their expression looks stiff.)

G. You want to say "quick to read the room." You say: ___ 가 빠르다.

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눈치 → 눈치가 빠르다. (quick to read the room)

H. You want to say "to avoid eye contact." You say: 시선을 ___.

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피하다 → 시선을 피하다 (to avoid eye contact)

I. You want to say "politely, respectfully." You say: ___ 하게.

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공손 → 공손하게 (politely, respectfully)

J. You want to say "looks confident." You say: 자신감 ___ 보여요.

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있어 → 자신감 있어 보여요. (looks confident)

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Quick Reference

Expression	Meaning
눈을 마주치다	Make eye contact
고개를 끄덕이다	Nod
팔짱을 끼다	Cross arms
긴장한 것 같아요	Seems nervous
실례가 될 수 있어요	Can be rude
표정	Facial expression
눈치	Social awareness
시선을 피하다	Avoid eye contact
공손하게	Respectfully
자신감 있어 보여요	Looks confident

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Pitfall

Don't confuse 시선 (gaze, direction of eyes) with 눈빛 (the expression or feeling in someone's eyes). 시선을 피하다 = avoiding looking at someone. 눈빛이 강하다 = their eyes have a strong energy/expression. Both are useful but different.

Exercise 2 — Korean → English Translation

Translate each sentence into natural English.

A. 눈을 마주치면 자신감 있어 보여요.

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Making eye contact looks confident.

B. 너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례가 될 수 있어요.

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Staring too long can be rude.

C. 저 사람 긴장한 것 같아요.

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That person seems nervous.

D. 고개를 끄덕이고 있어요.

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She/he is nodding.

E. 시선을 살짝 내리는 게 더 공손해 보여요.

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Looking slightly down seems more respectful.

F. 표정이 좀 딱딱해 보이네요.

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Their expression looks a bit stiff.

G. 팔짱을 끼고 있어요.

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She/he is crossing their arms.

H. 눈치가 빠르시네요.

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You're quick to read people / the room.

I. 저 사람이 왜 시선을 피하는 것 같아요?

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Why do you think that person is avoiding eye contact?

J. 바른 자세가 더 자신감 있어 보여요.

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Good posture looks more confident.

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Vocabulary Cheat Sheet

Word	Meaning
시선	Gaze, line of sight
눈치	Social awareness
표정	Facial expression
자세	Posture
공손하다	To be respectful
긴장	Nervousness, tension
실례	Rudeness, social violation
쳐다보다	To stare at
살짝	Slightly, a little
딱딱하다	Stiff, rigid

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Grammar Tip

~것 같아요 softens any observation about someone else: 긴장한 것 같아요 (seems nervous), 피하는 것 같아요 (seems to be avoiding). This is essential for body language conversations — Korean speakers prefer observations framed as impressions rather than direct claims.

Exercise 3 — Complete the Sentence

Fill in the blank with the correct word or ending.

A. 눈을 ___ 면 자신감 있어 보여요. (If you make eye contact, you look confident.)

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마주치 → 눈을 마주치면 자신감 있어 보여요.

B. 너무 오래 쳐다보면 ___ 가 될 수 있어요. (Staring too long can be rude.)

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실례 → 너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례가 될 수 있어요.

C. 저 사람 ___ 한 것 같아요. (That person seems nervous.)

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긴장 → 저 사람 긴장한 것 같아요.

D. 고개를 ___ 이고 있어요. (She/he is nodding.)

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끄덕 → 고개를 끄덕이고 있어요.

E. 시선을 ___ 내리는 게 더 공손해 보여요. (Looking slightly down seems more respectful.)

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살짝 → 시선을 살짝 내리는 게 더 공손해 보여요.

F. ___ 이 좀 딱딱해 보여요. (Their facial expression looks a bit stiff.)

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표정 → 표정이 좀 딱딱해 보여요.

G. 팔짱을 ___ 고 있어요. (She/he is crossing their arms.)

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끼 → 팔짱을 끼고 있어요.

H. ___ 가 빠르시네요. (You're quick to read the room.)

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눈치 → 눈치가 빠르시네요.

I. 바른 ___ 가 더 자신감 있어 보여요. (Good posture looks more confident.)

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자세 → 바른 자세가 더 자신감 있어 보여요.

J. 저 사람이 왜 ___ 을 피하는 것 같아요? (Why do you think that person is avoiding eye contact?)

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시선 → 저 사람이 왜 시선을 피하는 것 같아요?

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Sentence Starters

Starter	Use for
눈을 마주치면...	If you make eye contact
~하면 실례가 될 수 있어요	Doing X can be rude
~한 것 같아요	Seems ~ / I think ~
고개를...	Head/nod related
시선을...	Gaze-related
~가 빠르시네요	You're quick at~

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Production Tip

Practice describing five different body language cues using ~한 것 같아요. Examples: 불편한 것 같아요 (seems uncomfortable), 집중하는 것 같아요 (seems focused), 화난 것 같아요 (seems angry). Say each as a full sentence.

Exercise 4 — Dialogue Completion

Fill in the missing line to complete each short conversation.

A. A: 한국에서 눈을 마주치는 게 어때요? B: ___

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적당히 마주치면 자신감 있어 보여요. 근데 너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례가 될 수 있어요. (Moderate eye contact looks confident. But staring too long can be rude.)

B. A: 저 사람 왜 팔짱을 끼고 있어요? B: ___

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긴장한 것 같기도 하고 그냥 습관일 수도 있어요. (They might be nervous, or it could just be a habit.)

C. A: 어른들한테 눈을 어떻게 해야 해요? B: ___

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너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례예요. 시선을 살짝 내리는 게 더 공손해요. (Staring too long is rude. Looking slightly down is more respectful.)

D. A: 저 분 표정이 좀 딱딱해 보이지 않아요? B: ___

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맞아요. 좀 긴장한 것 같아요. (Right. They seem a bit nervous.)

E. A: 눈치가 있다는 게 무슨 뜻이에요? B: ___

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분위기를 잘 읽는다는 뜻이에요. 말 안 해도 상대방의 기분을 알 수 있는 거예요. (It means you read the atmosphere well. It means you can sense the other person's feelings without them saying anything.)

F. A: 고개를 끄덕이면 무슨 뜻이에요? B: ___

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동의하거나 듣고 있다는 뜻이에요. (It means you agree or are listening.)

G. A: 미소를 안 짓는 게 실례예요? B: ___

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꼭 그렇진 않아요. 상황에 따라 달라요. (Not necessarily. It depends on the situation.)

H. A: 자세가 중요해요? B: ___

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네, 바른 자세가 더 자신감 있고 공손해 보여요. (Yes, good posture looks more confident and respectful.)

I. A: 저 사람이 왜 시선을 피하는 것 같아요? B: ___

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글쎄요. 부끄러운 것 같기도 하고 불편한 것 같기도 해요. (Hmm. They might be embarrassed, or might be uncomfortable.)

J. A: 눈치가 빠른 사람이 좋아요? B: ___

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네, 눈치가 있으면 같이 있기 편해요. (Yes, when someone has good nunchi it's comfortable to be around them.)

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Useful Phrases

Phrase	Meaning
적당히	Moderately, appropriately
그냥 습관이에요	It's just a habit
분위기를 읽다	To read the atmosphere
상대방	The other person
상황에 따라 달라요	Depends on the situation
부끄럽다	To be shy/embarrassed
같이 있기 편해요	Comfortable to be around
동의하다	To agree

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Conversation Tip

눈치 comes up naturally in Korean conversations about social skills. Saying 눈치가 빠르시네요 to someone is a genuine compliment. If you want to say you're still developing yours: 저는 눈치가 좀 없어요 — a self-deprecating, honest, and very relatable thing to say.

Exercise 5 — Free Speaking Practice

Answer each prompt out loud in Korean. Focus on natural description using today's vocabulary.

A. How is eye contact viewed in Korean culture? What's appropriate?

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적당히 눈을 마주치면 자신감 있어 보여요. 근데 너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례가 될 수 있어요. (Moderate eye contact looks confident. But staring too long can be rude.)

B. Describe someone who seems nervous using body language cues.

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팔짱을 끼고 있고 시선을 피하는 것 같아요. 표정도 딱딱해 보여요. (They're crossing their arms and seem to be avoiding eye contact. Their expression looks stiff too.)

C. What does nodding mean in a Korean conversation?

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고개를 끄덕이는 건 듣고 있다거나 동의한다는 뜻이에요. (Nodding means you're listening or you agree.)

D. How should you hold your gaze when speaking to an elder in Korea?

<summary>Suggested answer

어른들한테 너무 오래 쳐다보면 실례예요. 시선을 살짝 내리는 게 더 공손해요. (Staring at elders too long is rude. Looking slightly down is more respectful.)

E. What is 눈치 and why is it important in Korean culture?

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눈치는 분위기를 잘 읽는 능력이에요. 말 없이도 상대방의 기분을 알 수 있어요. 한국에서 눈치가 있으면 같이 있기 편해요. (Nunchi is the ability to read the atmosphere well. You can sense the other person's feelings without words. In Korea, having nunchi makes you comfortable to be around.)

F. Describe what good posture communicates to others.

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바른 자세는 자신감 있어 보이고 더 공손해 보여요. (Good posture looks confident and more respectful.)

G. How would you describe a person who seems confident based on their body language?

<summary>Suggested answer

눈을 자연스럽게 마주치고 바른 자세로 서 있어요. 자신감 있어 보여요. (They make natural eye contact and stand with good posture. They look confident.)

H. Say something that might be considered rude body language in Korea.

<summary>Suggested answer

어른들한테 너무 오래 쳐다보거나 다리를 꼬고 앉는 게 실례가 될 수 있어요. (Staring too long at elders or sitting with crossed legs can be rude.)

I. Compliment someone for being quick to read the room.

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눈치가 정말 빠르시네요. 분위기를 잘 읽으시는 것 같아요. (You really have good nunchi. You seem to read the atmosphere well.)

J. Describe your own nonverbal communication style in Korean.

<summary>Suggested answer

저는 보통 눈을 마주치려고 해요. 근데 어른들한테는 시선을 살짝 내리려고 해요. (I usually try to make eye contact. But with elders I try to lower my gaze slightly.)

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Sentence Starters

Starter	Use for
눈을 마주치면...	Eye contact norm
~하면 실례가 될 수 있어요	Cultural caution
~한 것 같아요	Describing observations
눈치가...	Talking about social awareness
바른 자세는...	Posture descriptions
시선을 살짝 내리면...	Respectful gaze

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Speaking Challenge

Watch a 1-minute scene from a Korean drama with no subtitles. Describe what you observe using: 표정, 시선, 자세, 눈치, 자신감 있어 보여요 / 긴장한 것 같아요. Say five observations out loud in Korean.

눈빛 하나, 고개 하나로도 많은 걸 말할 수 있어요. 한국의 비언어적 소통을 이해하면 대화가 더 깊어져요. ✨